Patterns in our lives that lead to more of the same problems can be broken. A useful strategy is to Describe the Event, List Thoughts, List Feelings, List Behaviors. Somewhere in those lists are the reasons that the harmful pattern repeats itself.
Part 2: Look For The Helpers. Women must comfort, help, and promote women. Relying unconditionally on men for women's safety, security, and fulfillment is delusion. White women helped win the election for the GOP. We must be ready to help, because the GOP will undoubtedly fail women.
During WWII, the British accepted their personal and national struggles to defeat German aggression and prevent German invasion of their islands. Their collective heroism was based on fear but quite rational. In contrast, German people's irrational and cultish beliefs in Hitler empowered his aggression and caused their unimaginable personal sacrifices. Disinformation is a powerful force.